It has been 10 months since I’ve been off Facebook. I received a lot of different reactions when I decided to leave. I don’t think most people understood why I wanted to, and I probably didn’t articulate my reasoning very well. The bottom line is I had some things to workout and Facebook was preventing me from dealing with it. Here are some things I’ve learned from my FB hiatus.
1. I have been blessed in so many ways. Turns out, when you’re not focusing on other people and what they’re doing you can put energy into your own life and make it what you want it to be. And that’s what I’ve been doing these past 10 months– focusing on me and my little family down here in Munice, Indiana, and discovering new ways that God provides and pulls us through to show us that life is beautiful regardless of one’s surroundings. We have one more year here in Muncie and pray that I take this lesson into the future when Sam is finished with his doctorate and we “settle down,” wherever that may be– I’m anxious to find out! Life is as beautiful as you make it.
2. I have learned how to be content with where I am, what I’m doing, and who I am with. My priorities have continued to change– focusing more on my life here, in the present and less on wishing I was somewhere else. When we first moved down here it was really hard being away from family and seeing pictures and videos of everybody getting together. Taking a break from FB has helped me learn how to cultivate a life for me and Sam. Having that extra bit of virtual distance allowed me to focus on what we really want as a couple and where we really want to go and what we want to see. That being said….
3. I have learned that FB is just so darn convenient. I had hopes of becoming a better, more intentional long-distance communicator without it, but what has actually happened is I keep in touch far, far less. I miss being able to tell them all how beautiful their children are and how much I miss them. I still hold that FB is considerably superficial, but it’s as close as I can get to the people I love without physically being there. In addition, there are amazing people I’ve had the privilege to know here, who have already come and gone. These are people I’ve come to care about and want to keep in contact with. Facebook is just too darn easy.
4. I have learned that if you are a procrastinator, deleting your FB account will not suddenly make you more productive. You will find other pointless ways to fill your time (i.e. Pinterest, Twitter, Netflix, lying in bed staring at the ceiling). This was never the real reason I deleted my account, but I was really hoping it would be a side effect. Like I said, I had some stuff to work through and even though Facebook wasn’t the cause, deleting it was my best solution at the time.
5. I have learned that FB isn’t bad, even though it isn’t always good…
I’m glad I decided to get off Facebook when I did. I’m starting to feel like I’m ready to enter that world again. In the end, it’s more about being conscious and intentional in every aspect of your life. It’s about finding balance and knowing when enough is enough. It’s about being present– appreciating the gift of having contact with your loved ones with a single click while at the same time gratefully attending to your own.
I appreciate all those who have supported me with this decision and allowed be to figure all these things out on my own– even though you may have already learned these lessons for yourselves. And who knows, maybe you will be experiencing a little more of my internet presence in the near future.